by Barry on January 30, 2012
This post is an excerpt from my upcoming workbook on Masterful Relationships. “You ain’t learnin’ nothing’ when you’re doin’ all the talkin’.” – Lyndon B. Johnson People want to be listened to, respected, and understood. Listening draws people to you: value them and what they have to offer. Knowing what people need and want are [...]
by Barry on December 16, 2011
90 – 95% of New Year’s Resolutions fail. Whether we’re trying to save more money, lose weight or stop smoking, we run into difficulties. That’s because these things have created other habits in our lives. This year, rather than saying “New Year’s resolution”, you might want to call your goal a “New Year’s promise” – [...]
by Barry on December 6, 2011
“Healthiness” isn’t a black-or-white, all-or-nothing scenario. You can still eat healthily during the holiday season – without avoiding networking events and parties. Tip #1: Avoid attending events when you’re ravenous Grab a piece of fruit, a few crackers or even just a glass of water before you leave the house. It doesn’t look good when [...]
by Barry on November 22, 2011
People who appreciate what they have and who they are seem to be far happier than those who constantly strive for more. Whether or not you celebrate Thanksgiving, take a few minutes to consider what you’re grateful for today. One way to be happier long-term is to keep a gratitude journal or log-book. Look at [...]
by Barry on November 2, 2011
If you’re going in the wrong direction, derailing yourself intentionally is very difficult – but very worthwhile. During the current economic troubles, many people’s plans have been derailed – and perhaps this has happened to you too. If so, see it as a time of excitement and opportunity: a chance to re-explore the question of what [...]
by Barry on October 4, 2011
I have had several guest posts published on large self-improvement websites. You can follow the links here to catch up with recent ones: Why You Need a Pre-Emptive Strike Against Interruptions on Work Happy Now This post explains the concept of a “pre-emptive strike” in business terms, and shows you how to use these effectively [...]
by Barry on September 21, 2011
A “no” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble. – Mahatma Gandhi One of the biggest reasons why people don’t like to say no is because they don’t want to damage a relationship. There’s a great book called The Power [...]
by Barry on September 7, 2011
“When patterns are broken, new worlds will emerge.” – Tuli Kupferberg For me, this quote demonstrates why coaching works and why it’s such a powerful force in our world today. This quote also works in reverse: by identifying new worlds we want to pursue, we find the capacity to break old patterns. As a coach, [...]
by Barry on August 24, 2011
In every career, you’ll experience moments of stress in the workplace. In order to help reduce this, I recommend trying one or more of the following stress management techniques: #1: Conduct “standing meetings”. When someone enters your office, stand up to talk to them. This will let them know that you have very limited time. [...]
by Barry on August 12, 2011
I was the guest on the inaugural podcast of Solo Smarts, with Kelly McCausey. In the podcast, I go through the 24 Best Practices of Successful People (one of my guest posts, on the FeelGooder blog). During the introduction, I explain how I got started in coaching eighteen years ago, and why I’m affiliated with [...]